James Altucher

Nov 3, 2020

5 min read

13 Things Mentally Strong People Do When Their Candidate Loses

I’m scared. 80,000,000 people are going to be upset tonight no matter who wins the election.

Buildings are boarded up in every major city. Riot gear is being handed out. Security companies are being hired to add protection. Celebrities are going to move to Canada for the 20th election in a row.

The #1 stress being discussed in psychologist’s offices is “political stress”. You cannot help solve the problems we are in if you are anxious or stressed. You cannot be rational if you are not taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, creatively. You cannot enhance the lives of your family, your friends, your community, if you are arguing on social media.

This is your choice.

The US has survived Depressions, World Wars, (“two-time world champs,” as comedian Chris Distefano puts it), we’ve survived horrific natural disasters, terrorist, attacks, censorship (if you think social media is bad, check out the Alien & Sedition Acts), pandemics, etc. It’s going to be ok.

Over $10 BILLION was spent this election. More than ever. What was it spent on? Scaring you. Stressing you. Dividing us.

And after this election, our goal is to repair rather than compare. To sympathize rather than polarize. To strengthen each other rather than pull each other down. A true leader is not who is elected but those of us who take action to help others. This is our responsibility.

I called Amy Morin, author of the bestselling book, “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”.

She wrote that book after she went through a horrific year at the age of 26. Her young husband had passed away, only a few short years after her mother passed away. As a therapist, she had to apply her own ideas to herself and it’s almost impossible. But she did it and I’m happy she wrote about it. Her ideas help me and can help all of us on a day like today.

She sent me her list of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Do When Their Candidate Loses”. Then she went on my podcast and we talked about each one.

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1) They Accept The Outcome

  • No matter who wins, a mentally strong person will accept the outcome and move on with their lives

2) They Name Their Feelings

  • Many studies have shown that if you label your feelings, it takes the sting out of it:

3) They Look At The Facts

  • Take a step back to look at what’s true what’s not

Trust me when I say: whatever is your critical issue, it’s not as bad as you think. [If you ask about issues in the comments I will write another article after this election about what the reality is for each issue]

4) They Argue The Opposite When Thinking Of Doom And Gloom

  • If you think the economy will crash if your presidential candidate doesn’t win, argue the opposite

5) They Limit Their Media

  • No one, not even the media, knows exactly what the future holds

6) They Stop Commiserating

  • Commiserating, or complaining to others, makes you feel worse and makes the world seem more gloomy

7) They Focus On What They Can Control

  • You can’t control the outcome of the election but you can control your diet, who you spend time with, how much sleep you get, etc.

8) They Resist The Urge To Argue On Social Media

  • People aren’t going to change who they’re going to vote for over a stranger’s opinion on social media

9) They Reach For Healthy Coping Skills

  • Have a strategy to handle anxiety, fear, etc.

10) They Take Care Of Themselves

  • Get 8 hours of sleep, exercise daily, and eat healthy

11) They Change The Channel In Their Brain

  • Recognize when you’re dwelling on the negative or ruminating on a problem instead of trying to solve it

12) They Schedule Time To Worry

  • Give yourself 15 minutes to worry every day. With practice, people can contain their worrying to just 15 minutes a day.

13) They Take Positive Action

  • Do something kind and positive for someone

I’ve been scared these past few weeks. That’s why I called Amy. It’s like we’re lonely boats trying to find shore on a foggy night. Become a beacon of light to those around you, and then when the night is gray, all of the boats will move toward you, bringing their bountiful riches.

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[Please share this with anyone you think it can help. Our goals are to come out of this better than we were. With a stronger Union. With more compassion for others. With our loving relationships still intact. With the strength to handle tomorrow’s issues. Good luck.]